19122009

It's a special day for the family.

No fuss. All simple, personal and heartwarming.

Just the kind of setting and ambience that I like.

Met the couple the following day.

With the change in status, they feel different..

Maturity? security? Happiness

I can't describe...

But my little bro has progressed onto another stage of his life...

ignorance?

She was praise for a task that was delegated to her. I was there most of the time. I know that she didn't do all of it but yet she accepted all praises at all without a hint of remorse or such....finally, I couldn't take it anymore..I told her that she should share the credit with the other person that had help her. She told me she didn't know that she has to do it. Ignorance? But isn't the logic similar to borrow money(in this case 'borrowing' resources ) and have to return it(one way or another)?

Situational ignorance? Or did she fail to see that for something she struggles in, others were there to assist her? Or she was simply overwhelmed by the task assigned to her that she forgot that the task was completed or successful with others' help?

Somehow, "I don't know I have to do it" is a bit unbelievable...

The House

What is the situation now?

Should I need to paint that picture, it will be a pic of a house that was once nice and cozy which is now run down.

The house has succumb to the harsh weather, the occupants, etc…

The house is tired.

As a new coat of paint is applied, with the sick house’s spirit gone, she just wanna be alone…

Just when the house rest in her own comfort, she was been knock down by a big truck…

The houses around her were all laughing at her. The house is sad.

She thought: I will be fine with much restoration.

With construction work in progress, she was then attached by termites which experts have warned will slow down the construction.

The house is lost..

She yearns for recovery. A fast one.

right formula

I am addicted to baking. Not that I am good in it but at least the formula works here..

Right ingredients + effort + detailed planning = success

This is only time when u can use the work fair on a situation..

witch

Once upon a time there lives a woman who realized that her kids are old enough and it’s time to move on to another stage of her life. She search and search and search. One day, she found her motivation. The ability to control. As she indulged herself in all the power that she had managed to build up, she started to crave for more..

In the commoners’ eyes, they saw a kind hearted lady. Always smiling and cheery..

For her followers, they started to see her true self as her crave for power and control increases with the passing day..

What will become of her and the followers?

The End

office romance or adultery?

If you are married with kids, what is the one thing u want after the official working hours? Go home and be around your kids and spouse(family so to speak). So…what kind of conclusion can you draw on a person who previous to hang around a specific colleague of the opposite sex after working hours and on weekend?

Is this office romance? If it’s not, what better words to describe the situation? You have kids and spouse to go back to. So why are you spending your precious time with that particular colleague?

I wondered…do the spouses know? My heart goes out to their spouses(even if they claim that it’s pure friendship)…

sigh..

It all started with my fever, I attributed it to the lack of rest and all the changes then...

But then I actually slipped(carrying a fan). Injured my back again. It was so painful I tear.

The pain got worse with the passing days..The co doc was hopeless.

The appointment to meet the specialist was in 6 days' time. I had a dinner on that day itself. Was tempted to call off the dinner..

Then A fall sick. Very sick. For a few days. Yet he took me to my consultation at SGH.

Physio was arranged on the same day.

I didn't know that physiotherapy can be so painful.

A's condition didn't improve.

Just when I thought that things wouldn't get any worse, mum was diagnosed with Shingles...got a scolding for not updating..sigh..

Upset. Helpless. That's how I felt with the pain I was going thru and having spoken to mum and looking at A..

What's the highlight?!

Rex puked 3 times today!

No wonder he had been and is still cranky...

He looks tired.

The whole family is down..

slipped again..

I slipped, landed on my butt with a fan in my hand.

It was so painful, I tear.

What makes it worse is that I think it’s on the old injury..

This time round, I am truly worried…

She is a hypocrite

He has pulled up his socks. =)

She is getting from bad to worse…the personal attack is too much..mental torment.. =(

Father & Son

Rex has been licking, biting himself. Well..he has been extremely cranky…I guess there’s a reason for that.

After spending over $300plus on that boy(aka ah bu luo si), we were told that Rex is down with Malasezzia..

Felt terrible seeing him scaling all over..

Nonetheless, tt’s interesting to observe how strong the father and son bond are.. =)

Angel vs devil

On one end, I see someone reading her bible almost every day. On the other hand, I saw/feel and experience how bias she can be to certain individuals..

It’s all so hypocritical.

The angelic side is that face which everyone is seeing.

The devilish her..few unfortunate souls..

What are in her daily prayers? Does she ask god for forgiveness every day? What is going through her head?

Somehow, I am starting to see why HE is giving up on himself(or rather the situation that he is in)

But well…

saying "I don't know"

A person with so much love that she wanna so eagerly give away might not really know how to give/share that affection.

How much to give? When to give?

It’s an art. No doubt.

That is why I find it fascinating to observe. To observe ignorance, eagerness, awkwardness and disappointment(the list just goes on…)

Yes, I myself is learning with everyone else in every aspect…




Yen’s quote: “U learn when u admit your ignorance. U learn when u dare to say I don’t know”

Hunger for attention

I can’t help it but shake my head when I hear her talk. The low pitch was unbearable. She trying to broadcast that she’s working on “something” is so obvious. Unknown to her is the fact that many knew that she was trying to capture people attention. Childish. Or should I say I pity her?

Summary: -Education doesn’t affect your professionalism. (it just make you more self conscious)
-Those who made the loudest sound tends to be the least busy(why? Cos’ u need to broadcast your existence)

Her hunger for attention is just overwhelming…

mummy no no no...

2nd rag changed, 2nd vomiting incident, all the whining and not forgetting the stories and complaints from mothers around me, I am almost certain that I am not suitable to be a mummy.

Attention seekers?

Lately, I noticed that married women around me have been turning their attention to their friends(instead of their partner and family)…

Observation: They will get all excited over company/ outing/ conversation with their friends and never over their hubby or family.

Why? Feeling neglected? Are they trying to fill up that empty spot in their life? But what is that empty spot? Why friends? Why not their partners or family? And guess what? It seems to be happening to more females than male…

Then comes my next question. Are female hungry for attention, care and concern more than the males?

what will u do?

After knowing that they are going to put the dog to sleep, I felt really sad. Why? Just cos’ the dog has a genetic disorder? That the dog stinks and have super serious skin issue? I was furious at one point in time..after probing, with more information gathered. We realized that the choice was almost similar to choosing between your kid and your dog. What would you pick if u are them? It doesn’t help when the parents/in laws come into the pic..


At least they are nice to say that they willing to pay someone to nurse the dog till death……

FAMILY

With age, with experience, with loss, family means more than anything else..

TIRED

I am out of the Facebook phase. Up close and personal communication seems more real to me..that's why I am back to blogging...=P

We have been tired. Tired adjusting to the changes and housework. haha!

But man, aren't we proud and happy over our little acheivement! keke...

Stray Dog

Some might regard lab as stray dogs but who cares?! Our Rex has a number tag k. He's registered k?! whahaha

EMPTY

The car felt so "empty" without Nini..

Her smell and "presence" is gone. It so obvious...even though her towel is still around.

The good old company but it felt so different.

My heart felt so heavy.

Nope they have not gotten over the whole situation. In fact, non of us has.

That has got to be the most "heavy" apple strudel I have ever received...

As I watch them drives off, the image of Nini by the window came rushing back.

I am emotionally drained..

And I missed her so much...

Pussy

After all these times, he is still just a pussy. I give up. How can a man be so childish and petty? No wonder people has been speculating that he's gay. Can't blame them cos' I am so gonna keep my distance.

Pretty mean to use the word pussy on a guy but he deserve it. Trust me.

FEAR

When the news of another cancer case around me was announced a few days ago, it sets me thinking.

It trigger that fear mode in me again.

Just when you have everything, the only thing u are worried about is to lose it.

This brings me back to the 2012 topic that I had with bro… so what if the 2012 prediction/calculation is true?

Motherhood

Given the situation, I popped the qns “Have you regretted becoming a mother?” Her answer was without hesitation: “500% NO”. I was shocked but happy. Motherhood had changed her so much…

Can I trust your advice?

How do you offer advice to others when what you know is so limited?

How well do you know the person?

How well do you know the product or service?

How well go you know the person’s need and requirement.

Lately, I have seen so many cases of people becoming spokesperson for other people when their EQ is really questionable and their life experiences and understanding for others is really “that much”. Not to mention people recommending brands of products to others when the output of the product/brands is really substandard.

Question is, where do we draw the information to offer advice from? It meant be from our own shopping experience, what we already own and how we expect others to treat us in a similar situation?

You tell me. =)

Loss

16.05.2009

The day I lost my daughter.

The scenes/emotions/actions will stay clearly in my head.

I should have went in to see her...

LUCK

I learnt the same thing again...

You don’t have to be good to be successful. You just have to be liked and to be at the right place, at the right time, with the right person. And all these is dependent on one thing only: LUCK.

Germ-iest place

**Germ-iest place(ascending order)**

Airplane toilet

swimming pool

women’s purse(esp bottom)

mobile phone(2000 different germs)

@ #1-Shopping cart!!!

Marley & Me

We caught Marley & Me in the cinema over the weekend. We didn't expect the show to be so popular. The biggest theatre at Cathay was full-all the way to the 1st row!!

Given that we have a monster back home that looks and behaves just like Marley, we can really empathise with the show. I cried big time!

After the movie, when we walk Rex, we started having ppl(including Malays) calling Rex Marley....haha!

kimchi making

Ingredient:
-1 normal cabbage
-1 radish
-2 carrots
-1 bowl of garlic
-1 piece of ginger
-1 piece of onion
-spring onion(moderation)
-1 apple(optional)


For seasoning purpose:
-chilli paste(2 table spoon)
-chilli powder(in moderation)
-fish sauce(6 table spoon)
-sugar(2 sachets=2 teaspoon)
-salt for the cabbage
-Sesame oil(in moderation)


Instructions provided by my "shifu"(keke..)

1. Rub salt in between the leaves of the cabbage & let it rest for 10mins.

2. Soak cabbage inside water for at least 20mins. (cold water will be best)


3. Cut the radish, carrot and spring onion into thin strips





4. Take the cabbage out to dry and chop the cabbage into 4 quarters


5. Grind up ginger and garlic and onion





6. Mix all chopped vegetables(apple-optional), grinded ginger and garlic, chilli paste and powder, sugar, fish sauce and sesame well

7. Spread the mixture onto the leave of the cabbages.

8. Put the Kimchi into a seal container (MUST be airtight)

9. Leave the kimchi outdoor for 2 days (in a cool dark place. Eg: Store Room, cabinet below the kitchen sink) before putting them into the fridge for another 5 days before consumption.

social security? Association?

Where do u dispense off all those “extras” in you? What am I referring to? Well, it can be anything…


For instance, your time, love & energy.


I saw ppl who have so much affection, time, etc, that they typical have to look ppl up to shower others with all that. It’s a win win situation cos the demand and supply framework is out there.


Are we lonely? Is that the reason for facebook, SDU, etc?


I recalled a fren talking to me abt another fren of hers. She sounded like she has known the person for the longest time and how well this fren was doing(socially, financially, etc) but when I probe further…that person is just someone she came across on one of her holiday..a 15mins conversation 10 yrs ago. Best part: She talks about this person every week but she doesn’t have any contact information abt this person..qns that came to my mind then was “is this person real?”


As I look around the ppl around me, I saw this need, this need to be associated with certain group, to ppl of certain status, occupation, etc.. Is that need to be deem as popular or well liked that important?


Well, are u one of them?

careerbuilder.com

Glenn was sharing on air about a survey/finding published in careerbuilder.com on the 10 things to avoid, to stay in a job. They are:

1.gossip
2.your priviledged life
3.your religion
4.salary
5.politics
6.love life
7.on line venting site
8.your plans to quit
9.confidential work information
10.medical history


….I think I have violated the guidelines…Wrong move. =(

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U knew abt that already?

Well..I am a late learner...keke...

Something that comes together with that realisation is the fact that regardless of how close/how long u know the person, how much the person's tolerance level(perceived) for joke is, keep your honesty to the minimal, even if the person assume u that he/she can take it. The truth is, usually when someone claims that he/she can take the truth, the person can't. It's just a made believe impression. Afterall, everyone has to create an image for him/herself right? *winks*

Lavish or Comfort?

To what extend will you doll up your place? What is your focus? Mine is practicality and comfort.


It’s interesting how ppl are willing to spend excessively on designer items that doesn’t provide much comfort, requires high maintenance and in some ways might be detrimental. Sounds serious?


Well, image these:
-sitting around only 1-2m in front of a 42” or 47” TV every day.
-dents and scratches on your wooden floor even before u have shifted in.
-kitchen whereby cooking is almost impossible.
-colour theme that requires cleaning up everyday
-designer furniture that you are worried that you or your guest might dirty

limelight or blinding light?!!

Do u like or wanna be in the limelight? Know of anyone who will seize every/any opportunities possible to be the centre of attraction?


I know of someone who is trying and grabbing at any opportunity to be in the limelight. It’s so obvious that after a while, every attempt becomes a joke to me/us. I just look right thru the person as if he/she is transparent.


In fact, at times, the image of a clown actually appears in my head when he/her name is mentioned..bad huh? But it's the truth!!!

extra marital affair

They were having a discussion on extra marital affair on the morning express.


The Debate was on the shift from the typcial “man having an affair” to woman. Glenn was correcting FD that man are not longer the gender that is gaving extra marital affairs…Women are the one.

True(at least in my opinion). The world has changed. Look around you and you will find the answer. The only advantage for woman is that traditionally, they are deemed to be the weaker gender…

SOS for the singles

"More help for singles with merger of SDU and SDS"

-Channel NewsAsia

Is this really gonna help? As I talk to ppl around me, it is not hard to detect that the last thing that singles want to be deem as is "desperation".

2009-tough year ahead...

What's in the news today? Everything seems to revolve around the economic situation.

What's the discussion or comments on facebook? Economic situation and uncertainties..

What's the discussion topics during gatherings? Job uncertainties, Housing loan, pay cut/freeze...

Noticed something? You can easily link everything back to the current economic situation...

Situation is bad!

This was the first email that I read this morning...what a start to the day...



AMD sheds 1100 jobs, cuts pay
AMD's top execs will take a 20% salary reduction and more jobs will be slashed as the MPU maker continues to cut costs in the harsh economy. By Suzanne Deffree, Managing Editor, News -- Electronic News, 1/16/2009


Moto cuts another 4000 jobs
By Matthew Miller, Editor in Chief, EDN.com -- Electronic News, 1/15/2009


Freescale cuts pay, freezes benefits by David Manners -- Wednesday 14 January 2009


ON Semi lays off 1500, closes plants, forces unpaid time off
The efforts announced follow cost-reduction measures ON Semi began taking in Q4 2008, including the reduction of 2009 planned capital expenditures to $50 million to $60 million from normalized yearly levels of $130 million to $140 million, temporary site shutdowns during the quarter, a hiring freeze, the elimination of second half 2008 bonus payments, and strict controls over all discretionary spending. By Suzanne Deffree, Managing Editor, News -- Electronic News, 1/8/2009



Seagate Cuts 6% Jobs, PayCut of 25% - 10 % Worldwide
By puzzle -- January 14, 2009


Lenovo cuts 2500 jobs on PC pinch
In addition to the job cuts, equaling approximately 11% of the OEM's worldwide employee base, Lenovo plans to reduce executive compensation by 30% to 50%, including merit pay and long-term incentives, as well as any performance payments for the coming year. By Suzanne Deffree, Managing Editor, News -- Electronic News, 1/8/2009


Asyst to Lay Off 15% of Its Workforce
Asyst Technologies Inc. said it will reduce its workforce by ~15% by the end of March, part of an effort to cut annual costs by $30M-$35M. CEO Steve Schwartz outlined other moves the company is making to reduce overhead, and said the company is focused on "on our most critical new products and customer relationships." Staff -- Semiconductor International, 1/8/2009 9:53:00 AM


Freescale cuts pay, freezes benefits by David Manners -- Wednesday 14 January 2009


Hertz to eliminate more than 4,000 positions worldwide
Posted by puzzle -- January 17, 2009


GE Capital May Cut as Many as 11,000 Jobs Worldwide
By puzzle -- January 17, 2009

different fate..

We saw a lab at the dogs’ shelter the other day. He looked just like Rex, in turn of his build and behaviour. Only difference, he was abandoned..It was raining. There, inside the dog shelter were cramped inside a confined area. When I turned around to the back of the car, boy boy was sleeping…I told him,”Rex, do u know how fortunate u are?” I know someone was feeling terrible….I could sensed it…

A week later, I bum into Mohan. The first thing that came to my mind was that Lab. He mentioned that for “some reasons” the ex-owner wasn’t able to keep him in the house anymore…I recalled that Lab’s behaviour…he must be thinking, “where’s my family?” I know that expression. Rex has that when daddy is back home late or left him with mummy for far too long……..

can't hide it all...

“u have gained weight huh?!! Your face has became rounder huh?”

She never lie and her tolerance level for gaining weight is super high. So when she made that comment when I got into the car, I know it’s time to watch my weight…sob.

Obesity

We are being warned and reprimmanded for Rex’s obseity..that boy is way over weight. He’s ideal weight is 25kg and this boy is currently weighing 34.5kg…(he was able to reduce by only a kg over the past 1 wk...gonna take a while..)

What is the consequence? He might be gone in no time if he continue to be so heavy if not heavier. His leg will give way and soon he will not be able to walk..

So, boy boy is officially on a diet now(and after all those comments made on his parents, think there should too...sigh)

I am just bad luck...

Who would have expected back luck to strike twice in a row? After J misplaced my Fujilfim in Korea, I got pickpocketed in Shanghai.

Lesson learnt: It’s not how careful u are. It’s pure luck. Come on! I have a flip to my pocket k?!!! arghhh..